The five Laws of stratospheric success

1.THE LAW OF VALUE.
"Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment."

2.THE LAW OF COMPENSATION.
"Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them."

3.THE LAW OF INFLUENCE
"Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interest first.”

4.THE LAW OF AUTHENTICITY.
“The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.”

5.THE LAW OF RECEPTIVITY.
“The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving”

Make yourself happy & fullfil your dreams.

Here are some Hints....
1.Understand what will make you happy. Everyone has different ways for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy.

2.Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.

3.Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.

4.When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.

5.Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.

6.Take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood. 7.Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy. 8.Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness. 9.Generally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Signs of Abusive Relationship.

1)One person’s needs and decisions always come first. The other person feels they must go along with it.

2)One of you wants to know where the other person is all the time.

3)One of you checks up on the other way too much – texting to see where you are and who you’re with.

4)One of you stops the other from seeing family or friends. They say stuff like, “You don’t need to see them” or “we only need each other” or “you’re friends are boring”.

5)One of you is a snoop and disrepects the right to privacy – reading texts, a private diary or journal, phone messages, Facebook stalking, or installing software programs that record what websites are visited.

6)One of you feels pressured, tricked or forced to do sexual things they don’t want to do.

7)One person feels scared to end the relationship because they are worried their BF or GF will hurt them, or will commit suicide.

8)Emotional manipulation like “If you really loved me, you would… (have sex/stop talking to your ex-boyfriend/spend every night with me…”).

8)One person often humiliates the other and makes them feel bad (eg. ”you’re stupid/embarrassing/fat /clumsy, ”no one else would want you, ”you can’t do anything right).

9)One person scares the other through threats, pushing, hitting, locking them in, smashing things or aggression –the other person feels so afraid of upsetting them that they just go along with the demands of their Boyfriend/Girlfriend.

10)Jealousy is used as an excuse to demand that the other person has to stop talking to other guys/girls, ex-partners, friends or family.

11)Sending nude or humiliating pictures around of your BF or GF without their consent.

Wanaume hependa kuoa Wanawake wa aina gani?

Wanaume wengi wanapofikia hatua ya kuoa si kwamba wanakurupuka tu na kuoa mwanamke yeyote mwenye sura nzuri, bali huchukua muda wao mwingi kuchunguza mambo mengi juu ya wake ambao wanadhani kwamba wanaweza kuwa pamoja kwa kipindi chote cha maisha.
Wanawake wengi wanajisahau na kudhani kwamba kitu kinachoweza kuwafanya wakapata wachumba ni uzuri hivyo kupoteza muda wao kujichubua na kujiremba ili wawavutie wanaume bila kujua kwamba kuolewa ni zaidi ya uzuri. Hali sasa hivi imebadilika ni tofauti na kipindi cha nyuma ambapo ukiwa na sura nzuri na umbo la kuvutia basi una asilimia 100 za kuolewa.
Utafiti ambao nimeufanya unaonesha kwamba zaidi ya uzuri wa tabia na umbo, kuna kuna sifa nyingine za msingi ambazo mwanamke anatakiwa kuwa nazo ili aweze kuwa katika mazingira mazuri ya kupata mchumba wa kumuoa kiasi kwamba asipokuwa nazo ataishia kuchezewa tu lakini haitatokea mtu kumtakiwa kwamba anataka kumuoa.
MWEYE MAPENZI YA KWELI
Lengo kubwa la mwanaume kuoa ni kutaka kupata mapenzi ya kweli kutoka kwa mwanamke na ikiwezekana waweze kupata watotoa ambapo watoto mara ndio wamekuwa furaha ya ndoa. Wapo wanawake wengine ambao wanonesha wazi kutokuwa na mapenzi ya kweli bali wanakuwa na mapenzi ya kuzuga. Wanachotaka wao aidha kupata umaarufu tu kwamba yuko na mtu fulani ama kuweza kupata pesa alizonazo mwanaume lakini sio kwamba ana mapenzi ya dhati kutoka moyoni mwake.
Mwanamke asiye na mapenzi ya dhati utamgundua tu, muda mwingi utamuona macho yake yako kwenye mfuko wa mwanaume. Akiona kwamba mfuko umetuna utaona anaonesha mapenzi ya hali ya juu lakini pindi hali inapokuwa kubwa mbaya kifedha mapenzi yanaanza kufifia. Kwanini wanaume wanapenda wana wake wenye mapenzi ya dhati kutoka mioyoni mwao na si kutokana na fedha walizonazo? Hii inatokana na ukweli kwamba maisha siku zote yanabadilika, kama waswahili wanavyosema, kuna kupanda na kushuka.
Sio kwamba kila siku utakuwa na maisha mazuri na kama itatokea hivyo basi ushukuru mungu.Hivyo basi mwanamke wa kuoa lazima afahamu hivyo na awe tayari kuonesha mapenzi yake ya dhati wakati wote wa maisha yao na si kwa kipindi fulani tu cha neema. Si hivyo tu pia asilimia kubwa ya maisha ya ndoa yanatawaliwa na mapenzi, kwa hiyo nyanja hiyo inakuwa ya msingi sana kwa wanaume wengi kuiangalia ili wasije wakajikuta wanaoa mwanamke ambaye baada ya muda mapenzi yanakwenda likizo hali ambayo inaweza kuwafanya wasiishi maisha ya raha mustarehe.
WENYE TABIA NZURI
Tabia njema ndio silaha ya maisha, ukiwa na tabia nzuri kila mtu atakupenda, hiyo ni katika maisha ya kawaida. Lakini linapokuja suala na kuoa tabia inakuwa kitu cha awali sana kungaliwa na hiyo inaweza kuwa na ukweli kwa sababu wapo wasichana wazuri wenye mvuto wa aina yake na maumbile mazuri, lakini wanakosa wanaume wa kuwaoa, ukiuliza kwani utaambiwa anatabia mbaya.
Naweza kusema hilo ndilo limekuwa tatizo kubwa kwa baadhi ya wanawake kukosa wanaume wa kuwaona. Hakuna mwanaume hata mmoja kati ya wale ambao nimejaribu kuongea naye ambaye ameonesha kulidharau suala hilo la tabia. Si hivyo tu wapo wanaume ambao wameingia kichwa kichwa na kuoa kwa kuangalia sura tu bila kujali tabia, matokeo yake baada ya siku chache yanatokea machafuko ya aina yake hali ambayo imepelekea kuvunjika kwa ndoa kutokana na tabia mbaya alizonazo mwanamke.
WENYE UCHU NA MAENDELEO
Hivi karibuni kumekuwepo na mabadiliko ya aina yake kwa wanaume, wengi sasa hivi hawapendi kabisa kuoa mwanamke ambaye hana kazi yaani 'golikipa'. Kama atakuwa hana kazi basi awe na uchu wa maendeleo kwa kujituma kufanya kazi mbalimbali za kimaendeleo kama vile kilimo kwa wale walio vijijini na biashara ndogondogo kwa wale ambao wako mijijini na hata vijijini. Ile dhana ya kusema mwanamke ni mama wa nyumbani wa kukaa na kujipodoa akimsubiria mwnaume arudi amstarehesha, sasa hivi imepitwa na wakati. Wanaume wengi wanapenda wanawake ambao ni wahangaikaji, wenye ndoto za maendeleo katika maisha yao. Hata kama watakuwa si wafanyakazi lakini wawe wenye kutoa ushauri kwa waume zao juu ya jinsi gani wafanye ili wafanikiwe.
WASIOPENDA MAKUU
Kuna wanawake wengine wanakuwa na tabia za ajabu sana kiasi kwamba yaweza kuwa kero kwa wanaume. Wapo wanawake ambao wanapenda makuu bila kujali hali halisi ilivyo. Kuna wanawake naweza kusema wana tamaa, kila wikiendi utamsikia "leo tunakwenda wapi dear?" Akimuona rafiki yake kanunua simu ya laki tatu na yeye utamsikia akisema, ‘na mimi naomba uninunulie simu kama ya Grace’. Ukienda naye Pub anakuambia, "mimi sinywi pombe za chupa natumia za kopo tena Heineken’. Yeye hajali kiasi cha pesa mwanaume alicho nacho na usipotekelezea anachukia na anaweza hata kupunguza mapenzi.
Wanawake kama hawa wako katika mazingira magumu sana ya kuweza kupata wanaume wa kuwaoa. Mara nyingi katika maisha fedha huzungumza, kama mwanaume atakuwa na pesa ya kutosha itakuwa rahisi sana kwa mwanamke kupata kila atakachopenda lakini si kwa kumwambia mimi nataka kitu fulani.Mwanaune mwenyewe utamsikia akisema, ‘unataka nikununulie simu ya aina gani, au leo unataka twende wapi?’ hapo ndipo utakuwa na nafasi ya kusema, ‘mimi nataka uninunulie simu kama ya fulani ama leo nataka twende sehemu fulani.
Wanaume ni warahisi sana wa kuwapatia wale ambao wanatarajia kuwaoa chochote ambacho watahitaji kama tu pesa haitakuwa tatizo. Kitu ambacho kinawaudhi wanaume wengi ni ile tabia ya mwanamke kupenda mambo makubwa bila kuangalia uwezo uliopo kwa mwanume. Kuna wanawake wengine wao si wasemaji kabisa, yeye anasubiri leo amemletea hiki, anapokea na kushukuru, kesho akiambiwa twende beach anakubali. Au wengine wanasubiri mpaka waulizwe wanataka nini, ndio wanasema. Sisemi kwamba uwe mkimya tu hata kama una shida ya kitu fulani na unafahamu kwamba ukimweleza mwenza wako anaweza kukusaidia, hapana! kama unaona kwamba uwezekano wa kupata kile ambacho unakihitaji upo mweleze kwa utaratibu naamini atakuelewa na kukutimizia.Tabia ambayo hawaipendi wanaume wengi ni ile ya kulazimisha ufanyiwe kitu fulani wakati inawezekana uwezekano haupo.
WAVUMILIVU
Wapo wanawake ambao sio wavumilivu kabisa katika maisha.Tunajua kwamba maisha siku zote hayatabiriki, yanaweza kutokea matatizo ya kiafya ama kifedha.Huu ndio wakati wa kuona uvumilivu wa mtu.Kama mwanamke anatarajia kwamba siku zote ni za raha tu na pindi matatizo yanapotokea anachukua uamuzi wa kumtoroka mwanume, huyo siyo mwanamke wa kuoa. Wangapi leo hii huwatoroka waume zao pindi inapotea kuumwa, kufilisika ama kupatwa na tatizo lolote ambalo kwa namna moja ama nyingine yanaweza kuwafanya maisha yao kutingishika?
Uvumilivu kwa mwanamke utakuwepo kama tu atakuwa na mapenzi ya dhati kama nilivyozungumza hapo awali. Mwanamke mweye mapenzi ya dhati ni lazima atakuwa mvumilivu na atakuwa tayari kuishi katika maisha ya aina yoyote, yawe ya raha ama ya starehe.Hawa ndio wale ambao wanaume wengi wengependa kuwa nao maishani mwao. Licha ya kupenda kuoa wanawake amabo wana tabia hizo nilizozitaja hapo juu, wanachukizwa sana na wanawake ambao wanavijitabia vidogo vidogo ambavyo kimsingi havikubaliki katka jamii.
Tabia hizo ni kama wambea, wasio wakweli na wawazi, wasioridhika, wagumu kusamehe na wapesi wa kuchukia, wagomvi na wenye roho ya kwanini. Utafiti huu umefanyikwa kwa baadhi ya wanaume ambao wanatarajia kuoa wanawake ambao wanaoishi katika maeneo mbalimbali jijini Dar-es-Salaam. Kwa maana hiyo basi hiyo iwe changamoto kwa wanawake. Wajue kwamba wanaume wanafurahi kuwa na wanawake wa aina gani. Hata kama utakuwa umeshaolewa, kama kuna wakati kunakuwa na kutokuelewana baina yenu, chunguza yawezekana kwamba unakosa mojawapo ya tabia ambazo nimezitaja hapo juu. Waweza kubadilika kwani inawezekana.

Why pretty ladies falls into hands of bad boys

Read these five reasons.....................

1.Unpredictability: He may be calling you up and 'babying' you on the phone at night but giving you a cold shoulder the next day. Such boys are moody and extreme and their unpredictable nature makes girls curious to know them more. They will keep you thinking about what you did wrong.

2.Devil-may-care-attitude: They don't care about what the society thinks about them. Neither do they worry about future. They live for today. They don't care if the neighbor gossipy aunty saw them with their girl or their father shouts his guts out on them. If they are obsessed you for the time being then well, they can do anything for you. From climbing pipes to cornering you in the life..They are the bollywood idea of romance.

3.Lost looks: Somehow they mostly are endowed with boyish looks and to-die-for physique. They stir the maternal instincts! True fact, girls feel drawn to protect them! No matter how rude they are, girls will still think they are genuinely lost souls.

4.Thrill: These boys will set the adrenaline rushing. They come with 'DANGER' written in bold letters. That is what makes them more alluring.

5.Because girls like to think they will tame them: Yes, this is the reason. Girls like challenges. They want to tame these wild boys into good ones. No matter how many girls have been in his life she wants to be the one who lasts. The one who brings the change. She wants to show off the trophy to the world.

Be a self dependent Boss!

look at these instances
Go to school, work hard and get a good job. I bet that’s what you were told is the secret to success in life. I was told that too. Increasingly these days, that old maxim does not apply.

Scenario 1: You go to school, work hard and don’t get a job.
Scenario 2: You go to school, work hard, get a job but you don’t have job security.
It is obvious then that a new approach is necessary. We cannot keep on applying the same old stale solutions to new problems. What is the new solution you may ask? Well it’s simple, work for yourself! This is the best way to get a job and to keep it.
In the current economic condition the reality is that you need to create a job to keep a job. When you work for someone else you're putting all your eggs into one basket that you don't own or hold. If you want to secure your financial future regardless of the bad economy, you should do your own thing.
Before you take that leap of faith and start your own business read through the following guidelines. This is what will make the difference between success and failure.

Here are ten steps for you
1. Restrain your ego

while you need to be confident in your abilities and in your idea, don’t go overboard. Your ego can be your greatest enemy. If you get to a point where you think you know everything then that’s when it will fall apart. Be open to ideas and suggestions. Keep on researching and updating your knowledge to avoid complacency.

2. Keep it simple, stupid

If your idea is not simple, you're stupid. Create a business that is simple and workable. You don’t have to get a complex idea that will only wear you out. The simplicity of the business is what will keep it running. If you can’t explain to a layman what exactly you do, then you are in trouble. Create a simplified product or service that sells X product to Y customer for Z profit.

3. Be prepared for the worst

Think through every decision. Plan for the worst case scenario so that when it happens, you don’t collapse. Brainstorm more than one solution to every problem that you think you will face. Be ready for anything and you will not be surprised.

4. Be unoriginal

Many people don’t get to start their own businesses because they are waiting for the perfect idea that has not been used. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel instead you should focus on using an existing idea and making it better. Give it a spin. Find new ways of marketing, improve customer relations. If you wait for the perfect virgin idea be prepared to wait for eternity.

5. Low Cost Start-up is the way to go

Start a business that demands low start up capital. Don’t over commit yourself financially at the beginning otherwise it might be the beginning of a disaster. Take time to grow systematically. One step should lead to another. If you commit all your financial resources at the start, you will not be able to weather any storms that will come your way. Avoid borrowing large sums of money to spend on your business. You might find yourself in a debt pit that is almost impossible to get out of.

6. Become a cheapskate

To succeed in business you need to change your mentality and approach on spending. Know the difference between a frivolous expense and a necessity that can be bartered, bargained for, or partnered on. Don’t throw money on unnecessary things just to be noticed. You’ve got to practise frugality at its best.

7. Choose your partners wisely

Assess if a partnership makes sense before you jump into it. Your friends and relatives might seem initially like the perfect partners but it might turn out differently. The quality of your partnership is crucial to the success of your business. Be ruthless in your selection of partners otherwise you’ll pay a high price.

8. Forget about the old school business plan

Don’t worry too much about the formal business plan. If you plan to start a small business, you don’t need to write huge document. Stop thinking you have to write a business plan for investors or dense dissertations. You don't need a traditional plan to be a small business owner. Business planning isn't a revenue-generating opportunity. Instead, get started on your business so you can make money as soon as possible.

9. Your Business will not market itself

Get out and market your business. You have to come out aggressively to get the word out about your business. Put yourself out into the world. Always be selling yourself without being a used car salesman. "Join groups, network regularly, and find different ways to get your business in front of people. Use the social networking sites efficiently to promote your business.

10. Be afraid

Be afraid to have never failed. Do not be scared of failing when you try. Imagine which of the two situation is worse; trying out your idea and facing obstacles or waking up 10, 20, 30 years from now and pointing your finger at the TV saying, that was my idea!

Stop thinking that you have to get a formal job first and toil around for years before you can start your own business. If you are just getting out of school you should consider getting into business immediately before you get weighed down by additional responsibilities. The dream is possible.

At this stage you not only have extra time to invest in your business, but you also have a larger degree of flexibility. The failure of your business will not result into doom for your family. For people who already have traditional jobs, it's not too late to start a personal endeavour. Just take a look around and see that [by working for someone else] you're putting all eggs into one basket that you don't own or hold. If you want financial security at all times, you need to be in control of your own life. Take charge of your own destiny. That doesn't mean that entrepreneurship is easy, but it allows you to make your own destiny

10 Great Rules that will help you remain poor in your life time.

1. Never wake up early:
Keep stretching and turning in bed until you get too hungry to continue dozing. If there are no bedbugs, why hurry to get up?
2. Never plan how to spend your money:
Whenever you get money, start spending it right away and when it is finished, try to count and recall how you spent it.
3. Don't think of saving until you have real big money:
How can you save when you earn so little? Those telling you to save are not sympathetic to your burning needs.
4. Don't engage in activities usually reserved for the 'uneducated':
How can you, a graduate, engage in petty trade or home- based production? That is for people who never went to school.
5. Don't think of starting a business until an angel comes from heaven and gives you capital:
How do they expect you to invest before you get millions of shillings? Even though more than half the businesses in your town were started with a few hundred shillings, you as a smart person can only start with millions.
6. Complain about everything except your own attitude:
Blame the system, the government and the banks that refuse to lend you money. They are all bad and do not want you to get rich.
7. Spend more than you earn:
To achieve this, buy consumer products in credit and keep borrowing from friends and employer.
8. Compete in dressing:
Make sure you wear the latest clothes among all the workers in your office. Whenever your neighbour buys a new phone, get one that is more expensive.
9. Get yourself a nice second- hand car that costs more than three times your gross monthly pay:
That will surely keep you in debt long enough to hinder the implementation of any bad plans that could make you accumulate capital.
10. Give your children everything they ask for since you are such a loving parent:
They should not struggle for anything because you do not want them to suffer. That way, they will grow up lazy and hence poor enough to ensure they cannot help you in your old age.
hope now you have all the reasons to say bye bye to poverty!!!!